Friend or Foe?

 

I have, as I’m sure all of you have, encountered some snaky people in my life. Unfortunately, it seems something no normal person can dodge. You are destined to meet and experience at least one. And if one is all you ever have to deal with, consider yourself lucky.

It seems I sort of have this sort of thing happening again. It’s very subtle, so much so that I wonder if I’m imagining it. I wonder if I am simply being paranoid, finding things where in fact nothing exists? It’s possible – I’m not brilliant or anything, nor am I without mistakes (a buttload of them) or flaws (an even bigger boatload of them) – yet I can’t quite shake this sense…of something.

Have you ever had someone in your life who seems to covet, maybe even crave what you have? Now it may be good, great or even not so great, but this person really seems to want it. Whether it’s a pink sweater or an easygoing friendliness with the mailman. You can almost see the craving in the eyes, hear it in their tone and words. Yet when you try to look at it directly, it seems to disappear out of view. (Anybody ever see that movie, Gaslight? I’m saying…)

Naturally, you chastise yourself, believing you are being overly sensitive, imagining motive that isnt there – giving that person the benefit of the doubt, while with yourself you will cut no slack.

Then you start to notice little things – they are suddenly using phrases that you use, making similar jokes, in subtle ways assuming your…I don’t know…is it style? personality? what? And it’s a sort of creepy Twilight Zone experience. First of all, who the hell would want to be me? you ask yourself. What the hell is there to covet? Who knows? Still, you can’t shake the feeling.

These folks also other funny little things. If they feel you’ve been ignoring them, they call or write complaining of it. Acting hurt or worried that you’re upset with them or don’t like them anymore. Honestly, after the age of 10, isn’t this a little strange? In my case, if one of my chums is upset with me I usually know and if I don’t I simply ask, ‘hey, did I piss you off or something?’ Isn’t that normal?

Anyway, I’m not even sure I know where I’m going with this post – maybe it’s a cautionary tale. Maybe it’s just ramble. But I’d say, beware of people who fawn a little too much at you. Beware of those who pursue you a little too often and enthusiastically. Be careful who you take into your confidence and introduce your friends to – because frankly, some people have more than one face and honestly, neither one is very pretty.

WC

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13 thoughts on “Friend or Foe?

  1. Kinda creepy.
    It’s funny you mention this coveting issue.
    Believe it or not, last weekend a friend of mine said to me, “When I grow up, I want to be just like you. I want to have what you have.”
    The funniest part is this guy is 6′ tall and comes from Cameroon. His nickname at the store is Darkness.
    Is that weird or what?
    I started laughing when he told me that.
    And he knows I have three girls!
    Interesting post. Sorry to ramble on here.
    Feel free to hit the delete button. 😉
    ~m

    Hey Mikey,
    Yeah, it does feel a little weird, especially when the person seems to have a pretty nice life, etc. Though in your case, it just sounds like the guy admires you. Granted, this is a weird post and the person I refer to will likely never read it – just one of those things I had to examine in the light of day – know what I mean? I guess it’s Weird Day for Writer Chick. 😉
    WC

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  2. OMG I know exactly what you mean!!!
    I had a friend like this…lived with her for awhile in fact!
    It’s really quite freaky to realise that someone is trying to have your life. She didn’t go quite so far changing hair colors and stuff, but there was some weird shit!
    Kelly

    Years back, I had a roomie like this too. It actually took me years (I know, I’m slow) to figure it out. It did explain a lot though. LOL – maybe we should talk. 😉
    WC

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  3. Usually those kind of people fall under one of 2 categories: (1) The grass is always greener, or (2) Crazy, hopefully “yours” falls under #1, hehehe, but don’t worry we can spot a fake in a minute (right guys?) she’ll never be able to replace you….QUICK-Other than his birth name, what other (2) names was dad known as, in Michigan and/or Penn? (Do…do….do……do…..do……do…do…(Jeopardy music playing) hehehe

    l/y
    FC

    Oh this test is easy…Lucky or Jack. hahahahahahaha. I knew the answers to these. 😉
    WC

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  4. I really don’t see the issue WC. Hey, if only the rest of the world would follow suit, after all, if there is a person to be like, it would have to be me (or I guess, they could be you too, since you’ve mentioned it). Obviously not everybody can have our imagination and sense of creativity and so there’s nothing else left for them to try and imitate us. And if they don’t meet our standards, well, I guess they’re just pretty much SOL.
    There’s nothing to be scared about, cause we all know, the true value is always in the original.
    You’re a godess, so face it, there will be followers. 🙂

    Oh Spaz, you always make me laugh. *snork, guffaw* I’m a Goddess, eh? Wow, I wonder when I’m going to start looking like one. 😆
    WC

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  5. i have never had a friend who copied me, but i do have the one who is always asking if i’m upset or why do i not confide in her. i tell her it’s because she’s bossy and opinionated and then she turns it around on me for making the wrong decisions WITH MY OWN LIFE!! hello?? THATS why i don’t confide in her..
    i did have two friends who, when one would get or do something, the other would do the same thing immediately. it started in high school with U of M jackets and perms and most recently to buying cars within two days of each other and having children THE SAME DAY!!! that is creepy shit man. people need their own personalities. it’s what makes them special and likeable. in my opinion, if someone is wanting to be too much like you or worried about how you are feeling towards them all the time it’s because they don’t like themselves much or doubt themselves too much. either way it’s unhealthy.

    LOL, Reggie, now tell me how you really feel. I agree, it does come out of insecurity. The kids on the same day? Wow, that is creepy. Did they name them the same name or anything? 😉
    WC

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  6. Once I learn how to spell it.
    Goddess.
    There – done.

    Excellent! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve made a comment and then noticed typos after I posted it. Oy, the shame! 😆
    WC

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  7. I definitely know what you mean. Some people are so uncontent with their own lives that they find some one they admire and try to emulate them. Take it as a compliment. Almost. But be careful.

    Yeah, an almost compliment sounds about right…I think. 😉
    WC

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  8. ok, you passed this time, but i’m keeping my eye on you…chickie….hehehe

    l/y
    FC

    Otay…you do that. 😉
    l/y
    WC

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  9. Being appreciated is always a nice feeling, but those weird clingy people are a completely different story. It’s like when a dog who decides to follow you home and no matter how many times you try to dodge it someone it still stays right at your heel. The people who seem to want something you have can be disconcerting, but the other ones are just plane annoying.

    ~Kelsey

    It is weird – not much more you can say about it. Just weird.
    WC

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  10. I’ve been staring at the cursor, must be that I don’t quite have the words to express what I’m thinking. I do understand what you’re saying here, yet I’m having a ‘blog out’.

    No worries, I have blog outs and brain farts a thousand times a day. 😉
    WC

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  11. I think writers are more sensitive than others to this issue because it’s a vey subtle thing, to “borrow” someone else’s words or way of articulating an idea. It would bother me, too …

    You’re right, writers are more sensitive to this sort of thing. And it can indeed be bothersome.
    WC

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  12. Ewww, I hate it when someone “copies” my little quirks or sayings – it’s like they are stealing my “cuteness” or something – I’m like, “GET YOUR OWN IDENTITY!”

    LOL – stealing your cuteness – yeah, that’s the ticket. It really does feel that way, doesn’t it?
    WC

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