It has been pointed out by a friend of mine recently that one of the things we can do when all has gone to shit is to wipe the slate clean. Meaning nobody has any marks for or against them – all is beginning from square one and off we go.
This year I have been witness to some very incredible things – some which I quite frankly can’t believe and am still getting my wits wrapped around (witness the most inexperienced candidate in history is about to become the leader of the free world), some quite devastating, some fun, some surprising and some just downright annoying. Looking back over the last year and the events contained in it, makes me want to adopt this fresh start philosophy.
Because the truth is, that no matter where I started out and how I meant things to go, they didn’t – no matter what my intention was, things did not go that way, no matter how much I wish I could change yesterday I can’t. And after a while, don’t you really have to stop lamenting about your mistakes and bad decisions? You have to let go of whatever is annoying you about things and move on, right?
I think so anyway. The great thing about fresh starts is that you can stop making excuses and quit worrying about all the many ways in which you fucked up. You can throw all that crap in the junk drawer of your mind and move onto, hopefully, bigger and better things. It’s sort of a baggage reprieve if you will. All that baggage of guilt and bad past experiences that you’ve been carrying around, you can just dump. As though it never happened. Well maybe not quite that but you get the idea.
I actually think maybe it should be a law or something that at the end of each year everyone is required to stop holding any grudges they may have, cease and desist and being pissed at anybody they are, apologize to one and all for any stupid or fucked up things they’ve done, forgive everyone who screwed them over and then move on. We’re all friends again, the hard feelings are gone and we all have a new lease on life. Wouldn’t that be a cool law? Actually, no we better not make it a law because then someone will figure out a way to make it a big fucking bummer, which we have plenty of already. Maybe tradition is a better idea?
So, anyway, here goes. I officially forgive anyone who has pissed me off or hurt me this year; I officially apologize to anyone that I treated badly, upset, hurt, worried or just pissed off in general; Any grudge I have been harboring is hereby dissolved; and I grant myself and anyone I know a fresh start where I and they are concerned.
I feel better, how about you?