How Blogging Saved my Sorry Writer’s Ass

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Started out innocent enough. A writer friend was going on vacation, could I cover his blog while he was gone? A blog? WTF is a blog? He showed me the ropes:

  • Where to find images
  • How to post a blog
  • What categories and tags were
  • How to respond to comments

Back then you needed a handle, a blogger’s name, an avatar. Because you know, back then we didn’t use our actual names. Privacy and all that, right? So for lack of a better idea I went with Writer Chick (who knew it would stick?).

So….I blogged for him. I wrote about whatever came into my head. My first post was called Cream Boogers.  Surprisingly, people liked it.

After a week of this, I kinda got the blogging bug. So when he came back I started my own blog. I was scared. It was weird. I mean, who’d want to read what I thought about anything? I had no idea…

Writer rebooted

I’ve written stories pretty much all my life. Words were always my friends – especially written words because I didn’t stutter and stammer over those. I didn’t burn bright red when I wrote words, only when I tried to speak them. I could let the words do my talking and really it was better that way.

And I always ‘dreamed’ of being a writer. Of writing books, movies, TV shows, poetry. Yeah, all of it. But life always got in the way. There were jobs to work, rent to pay, relationships to nurture. Whatever, always some reason I should put it on the back burner. Or I could do what I really wanted to do someday. And I had periods, maybe you’d call them spurts where I was ‘being a writer.’ Got an agent, yeah I was going to hit the big time baby. Meh, not so much.

I gave up a lot of times. I decided it just wasn’t meant to be. I wasn’t good enough or just didn’t have the guts or something. But I always missed it when I wasn’t doing it. I always thought about it when I wasn’t doing it. Every time I read a book I thought, “I could do that. I could’ve written that story…”

So this blogging thing – that I did for a friend – forced me to write. Not dream about it. Or think about it. Or long for it. But to do it. I couldn’t let my friend down, right because he was depending on me so I did it.

So I figured if I had my own blog I could make myself ‘be a writer.’ I could make myself write. So that was the deal. I started blogging to see if I could make myself write everyday. No. Matter. What.

And I did it

I wrote a blog post everyday for 18 months and somewhere along the way I realized I was a writer. And always had been a writer. And I’ve been a writer ever since.

So just by writing this silly blog I:

  • Got into the habit of writing daily
  • I got a lot better at writing
  • I learned a lot more about writing
  • I got work as a writer
  • I became a freelancer
  • I published a book
  • I now make my living as a writer
  • I am currently writing a series (soon to be published)

And I was saved. From being the 9 to 5 grunt I feared I’d become. From keeping all those words inside. From being miserable.

So you just never know what a silly little thing like a blog can do for you. So I say, if you have a dream, find a way. Find something that helps you to walk toward that dream. Do something that reinforces it. That validates it. That makes you better at it. Gives you more confidence in it. Helps you prove to yourself that yes, you are that thing that you want to be. Because nothing creates being like doing.

So what about you? Did blogging save you too? What’s your story?

Writer Chick

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32 thoughts on “How Blogging Saved my Sorry Writer’s Ass

  1. Aw, that’s beautiful, Annie. Nope, with me it hasn’t been like that. I don’t think I ever got the bug, but I came to realize that having a blog is expected of any writer & writer-to-be. So I just did it. But, for me, it’s only another writing-related thing, not the other way around. I write, and then I do other things, such as blogging, tweeting, posting & maintaining an author page, etc. I met some great people via writing-related activities, though 🙂 Have a delightful weekend!

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    1. Well Ramona, it just goes to show you that we all come this blogging from different angles, yet somehow find each other. I really like that. Blogging has connected me to a lot of people I’d otherwise never met. Ah, the writer’s life – ain’t it grand?

      You have a lovely weekend too. Oh, I just bought some daffodils and thought of your garden. 😀

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  2. I love the moment when I or somebody else recognize what we are! A friend of mine is working to get me to stop thinking of myself as “only an adjunct professor” and start owning my ninja poet identity…

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    1. I agree with your friend. That hardest part sometimes is just acknowledging it and saying it out loud. I don’t know why exactly, but I a lot writers are afraid to call themselves writers because they think someone else will call them fakers or something.I don’t know, some weird twisted g-tortional insecurity in writers. And welcome madame poet. There, I said it. 😀

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      1. Actually I don’t know about imposter syndrome but you may be right about that. It might also have something to do with the fact that women tend to be natural nurturers and nurturers are prone to cheerleading for others, right?

        And you’re very welcome. 😀

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  3. Good for you, and more piwer to you! I have no choice…I have to write or I suffer symptoms of withdrawal. It’s therapeutic, fulfilling and what I look forward to each day.

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  4. Good for you! It took me a while to admit to myself that I was a writer. I still struggle with telling people what I do because I have published a book yet.

    I have a question, I hope you can answer.
    Did you ever think blogging was getting in the way of your writing? You know you should be working on your novel, but you forget how to write using verbs and adjectives? I want to know if writers ever feel like that because sometimes I think I’m a phoney.

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    1. Yeah, I understand that consideration – like if you aren’t published you aren’t a ‘real’ writer. Truth is you’re a writer if you write. Publishing is good and definitely a landmark in a writer’s career but it’s not the end game. I make my living as a freelance writer and while much of it is published it’s not under my name – but I”m still a writer. 🙂 Yay for us.

      To answer your question. Sure, of course. I did reach a point where I worried that I was satisfying my writing urges by blogging rather than writing. LOL about forgetting how to use verbs and adjectives – yeah I think I’ve had that happen on occasion – but it’s like riding a bike, once you know how it’s pretty easy to get back on. I’m working on a series right now and very close to completion and definitely there have been days when I’ve though ‘screw the blog I have to finish this draft’ and that’s okay too. One of the better solutions I came up with for this problem is writing several blog posts at once and then scheduling them. Or even saving them for times I just can’t blog. Although I’m pretty sure I use verbs and adjectives in my blog posts. Maybe I better check? 🙂

      As to the phoney, we all suffer from that I think. I don’t know really know why but it seems writers have some secret standard by which they their bona fide ness? Heck, you could always just practice in the mirror saying, “Yes, I’m a writer. I write. I have a blog. I’m writing a novel. I’m a writer. What do you do?” Eventually it feels normal.

      Thanks for the chat. 😀

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      1. 😀 Thank you! This makes me feel a lot better. Its been 6 years since I decided I wanted to pursue writing. I never tell people I’m a writer, I say ‘I want to become a writer’..lol, when I think about it, it sounds ridiculous.

        I think the ‘Phoney’ feeling comes from….u know how people have their lives planned out from the age of 6 or whatever, they’ve always wanted to do that thing. It wasn’t like that for me, I wanted to be an artist. I never used to read books, now I love reading.

        I think I have a lot to learn about this craft, hopefully one day I won’t see myself as a fake.

        Anyway, hope you’re having a nice day.

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      2. Well you could always tweak that line to: “I want to become a published writer, or a best-selling writer.” Sounds good, doesn’t it? You know, there was this info graphic floating around for a while that showed the age range of famous writers (when the experienced success, etc) and you’d be amazed but the youngest ones were in their 40’s. Not to say anything against younger writers but it seems to me the more you live life, the more you and understand and probably the more comfortable you are as yourself – writing seems like a natural outcropping of that.

        In terms of learning craft, you’ve got plenty of company. In fact, I’d venture to say that any artist who doesn’t feel they still have a lot to learn has stopped growing as an artist.

        I’m having lovely day – it’s 80 degrees, the sun is shining and the sky is blue here in So. California. How about you? 🙂

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      3. I’m having a great day too, Thanks for asking. It was sunny here too, in mildly sunny? mostly cold? Birmingham, UK.. lol It was actually a really nice day. I spent the day writing.

        Do you think their success has anything to do with wisdom? Maybe I could read a book on it? 😛

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      4. Wow, you’re way across the pond. LOL, from what I’ve heard sunshine is always good in the UK. And a day spent writing is great day.

        I might be able to recommend some writing books. What specifically did you want to read about: technique, experience, nuts and bolts practical stuff? Are you fiction or non-fiction? What’s your niche/genre?

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      5. Lmao I was trying to be funny. If I read a book on ‘how to be wise’, maybe I might have a successful career of a 40 something. Anyway, joke failed no worries.

        Its actually a great idea, that’s nice of you to help. I have been searching for a good writing craft book, for a while now.
        I am a fiction writer (see what I did there). I think technique is what I’m after atm. Anything that has been beneficial for you would be great, thanks.

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      6. Lol like I said, no worries. I blame it on the distance. I’ve heard British humour is odd.

        No I don’t mind. I didn’t even know some of those books existed. I’ve come across so many and I’m never sure where to start, so thank you for that.

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  5. I’ve always loved words.
    Late last year I finally started the blog.
    I’ve been writing my fiction for ages… Right now it’s “a bit here, a bit there” for both of them.

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    1. Well good for you. Just keep at it. I know for me that when I just decided flat out that writing was a priority it suddenly became one. And the universe kind of sort of started helping me. What kind of fiction do you write?

      🙂

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      1. Fantasy/ sci-fi/ futuristic stuff. My current project is set in a world sort of like ours, but not, focusing on a teenage girl on the cusp of adulthood who discovers she has a certain Affinity with the world – which makes her have to leave home and accompany a group on a journey, discovering things about herself and others along the way. As she learns, the world of politics she’s stepped into turns; seeking an answer to the question, “do we want to live forever?”

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  6. Two years ago I went to the LA Times Festival of Books and a gentleman asked if I was a “writer”. I told him I was in the research phase. He said “just say you are a writer.” My brand new business cards say “Writer” under my name. I am currently writing a book. WOO HOO! and a blog. Every now and then I say to myself “I am a writer”, but I don’t think I am 100% there yet. It seems like such a lofty position for a regular person like myself, though the reality is I am in the process of writing a first rough draft of a biography about my father. And I love it.

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    1. Good for you Elva. That’s right you put writer on those business cards and hand them out with pride. 🙂

      Writing? Lofty? LOL – I most of us are a bit nuts and neurotic (not you of course) – but most writers I meet are really regular everyday people like everybody else.

      And I never a writer who ever felt they were 100% there, ever. We’re all learning and no matter how much we learn there is always more to learn, right? That’s how life is.

      I really admire all the work you’re putting into researching your father’s career, and his life – it must be like a real treasure hunt for you. Keep it up, you’re doing great. 🙂

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